"Some of us think that holding on makes us strong; but sometimes it is letting go."
~ Hermann Hesse
Letting go of what, Adriana? Nothing really in particular, but at the same time, letting go of everything. This isn't a entry about a boy. This isn't directed to anyone in general. Anyone who reads this, I challenge you to take a second and think about whatever you need to just let go. I feel our generation, no matter how unique, different, or hipster we try to get, we have a tendency to hold on to something. Not because it's important or good for us, but because our pirde makes us cling.
We feel a lot of the time that it's our sole duty to be stuck on things, hold onto things, just live portions of our lives around these things. We let them define us. For example. I know a boy who's father slapped him across the face everytime he was disrespectful and his father always said "I have the right to abuse you." Now, the now young man doesn't even like the word abuse.
I understand. I understand that what people go through is traumatic. I understand more than most. But you can't just say you're messed up for life and leave it at that. You're going to hold onto that and just say you're damaged and life will move on without you? That's weak. As a whole, our generation thrives on being strong, independent. But how can we claim that with honesty and sincerity?
I'm not one to judge. I've gone through this very thing. I held onto something for so long, and I tried to get off by saying I was damaged and that was how it was meant to be. Yes, I was damaged, but how I handled it determined me as a person. And I was a weak person. Oprah once said, "You are responsible for your own life. You can't keep blaming someone else for your dysfunction. Life really is about moving on." I agree. So I'll offer ways to get over and let go of whatever you're holding onto.
If it's in the past, it's in the past. There is nothing you can do to change it. No matter who hurt you, left you, what you did, or who you hurt. You cannot change the past, so stop dwelling on it. Next, you forgive. Yourself, the person, the item, the circumstance. You forgive it. And if you say, "Oh yes yes. I have forgiven them! All is well", but you find yourself bitter and angry and hurt, then no. You haven't truly forgiven them. "Forgiveness is an attribute of the strong," said Ghandi. Isn't that what we thrive on as a generation? Strength. And finally, you grow from it. I cannot give advice on how you are suppose to grow because everyone is unique. But just grow. Find something good out of it and grow.
Because if our generation could learn to just grow up, we'd be in a good place.
